Months turned into a year, and neither of you is saying anything.
It didn't feel like a decision. It felt like life got loud, then one of you flinched first, then the avoidance calcified. Now bringing it up feels bigger than the problem itself.
This list isn't a diagnostic. It's language. If you recognize yourself in one of them, the work is available.
We make the conversation possible before we make anything else change. Most couples in a dry spell can't talk about sex in their own living room — so we do it here first, with a therapist in the room, until the topic stops being electrified.
Then we look at what the avoidance has been protecting. It's almost always something — a resentment, a shame, a body thing, an unspoken "I haven't wanted to for a while and I didn't know how to say that." Once it's on the table, it stops running the marriage.
The goal isn't a sex schedule. The goal is a relationship where sex is actually available again, because the things blocking it have been addressed.
Desire discrepancy, avoidance, shame, body stuff, the aftermath of religion or purity culture — we go where weekly therapy usually doesn't.
A 20-minute consultation is free. It exists for one reason: to make sure this is the right fit before either of us commits.
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